Premature Ejaculation Treatment

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Premature Ejaculation Question

Do you have any suggestions for premature ejaculation? Anonymous

PE Answer

Ideally a man needs to go for hours being highly aroused without having an ejaculation. The pleasure of lovemaking is in the desire, not the orgasm. Like life, the pleasure of love making is in the trip, not the ending. A man needs to enjoy the love making journey.

Technique-wise, premature ejaculation is easy to treat. Whether solo or with a partner, you and/or your partner can squeeze the erect penis firmly just underneath the glands. This of course makes your penis quickly retreat!

The PE technique and exercise sounds a bit barbaric, but it works in terms of stopping you from having an orgasm too early in the love making.

Using this squeeze just before the point of no return will begin to tame your out of control response. Then you need to direct your attention to the source of the problem. As most of you know by now, that it where I want to go, to the heart of the matter.

My PE approach increases your self-confidence and mastery over yourself so your sexual response becomes more relaxed, comfortable and pleasurable. So you can go for hours in the state of pleasure and desire.

Premature Ejaculation is like any other anxiety response, it is out of control. Your penis is going off without your desire, direction or intention. Your sexual behavior is out of control, while you look on feeling helpless.

PE happens even though you don't want it to. As you learn to relax and let the tension in your body dissipate, your out of control behavior will stop. Your energy will flow and you will enjoy sex and lovemaking.

This means the anxiety in your autonomic nervous system needs to be reduced. My anxiety and fear tape, which is the second tape in the series in "Opening the Heart", explains how you can begin to overcome anxiety and relax your body.

In the area of sexuality, there is so much repressed judgment, guilt and shame that it will take humanity quite a long time to feel relaxed and secure about sex.

I don't think Freud was so off base saying sexuality is at the root of everything. It is our sexuality that has been so damaged and wounded that we are immature and ridiculous in so many of our behaviors. The male is as hurt by our judgments against sex as the female. We get anxious about real sex.

When you are not anxious, you are relaxed, nonjudgmental and sensual. You are loving and expressive. You can return to your natural body and regain the pleasure and joy of being alive.

The age old practices of tantra yoga can be helpful in mastering your sexual energy. However, I do not see sexuality the way they do in terms of the male needing to conserve his energy so he cannot have an orgasm.

This approach is very old and developed out of a country that not only had rigid castes but also still has very rigid sex roles. In the past, eastern cultures have controlled sexual behavior with foot binding and suttee (the self-immolation of a Hindu widow on the funeral pyre of her husband).

I myself want to free both men and women so they are naturally sexual and self fulfilled. We have both female and male energy and these two aspects of ourselves need to be flowing full speed ahead in order to be sexually whole.

When you are no longer anxious, you will be responsible, free and joyful. Then you will have dynamic sex and dynamic living. My body awareness method for overcoming anxiety is available as an e course online.

Your sexuality and sexual health is at the heart of full-bodied, vital living. You must love your sexual self to be fully alive and creative. You do not need a partner to be sexual and alive.

Hope this expands your view of yourself and your premature ejection. Your sexual response can become slow, easy and sensual.

 

Dr. Doris Jeanette, anxiety expert, sexual health expert

 

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