Use Sex to Blast Depressed Energy

By Dr. Doris Jeanette

The best way to tell if you are depressed is to note if your sexual desire is healthy and strong or weak and puny. When a person is depressed, it is the sexual energy that is severely inhibited. If your sexual energy is not radiating excitement and enthusiasm, then you are holding back your fire. Your fire is what fuels your desire, your passion and your joy.

All of us have some depressed energy, but it especially affects women and children. Did you ever wonder why women and children have more problems with depression? Physicians, Psychologist and Researchers do not see the connection between low sex drive and depressed energy. Women and children are not Òsupposed toÓ have healthy, strong sexual desires. Women and children are taught to deny and hide their sexuality.

However when little boys grow up they suddenly enter a world where they are allowed to be sexual. The erect penis becomes a positive sign of virility. Unfortunately little girls do not enter a world where their engorged clitoris is a positive sign of anything. Instead, if she is turned on and excited, she is called names. This makes it really hard for all those men who are married to all of those depressed women. I have seen so many men over the years that have been trapped in sex-less relationships, not knowing what to do with their depressed wives. Positively most of their wives were on antidepressants. As most of you know, antidepressants are notorious for completely destroying a personÕs sex drive. This is a lose, lose situation for everyone.

Depression is the number one mental health problem across the land. And the shocking truth is that psychotherapy and drugs do not successfully treat it. Once a person is depressed, they are in a Òpit of despairÓ as Harry Harlow called it and it is hard to transform. Consequently, using Talk Therapy with depression is like trying to move a giant boulder out of the path with a tiny puny, toothpick. Just imagine the number of hours that talk therapists and clients have been stuck in silence, passivity, inactivity and waiting. Heavy, dense energy needs some dynamite.

Drugs are not dynamite, drugs are drugs. This year a British Government Organization was finally willing to clearly state that Òantidepressant drugs are dangerous for children.Ó Of course drug companies are rushing to fund research to reassure the public that drugs are indeed helpful. But the truth is clear and we need to take action.

Three years ago in Aruba, the headline on the front page of the national paper was a screaming article about how much ÒAmericans Drug their Children.Ó I was shocked to see that the outside world was more concerned about American children than Americans. When I returned home, an ex -client of mine, who had successfully reduced his own depression, called and asked for a referral to a psychiatrist. I reminded him of healthy ways to treat problems. He said they didnÕt have time because his new girlfriendÕs son was in trouble at school. The school had told the Mother that she Ò had to get a drug to sedate him before he could return to school.Ó

I did not believe that this could be true because this seemed unethical to me. When I inquired about the ultimatum, what I found was that this is a fairly common way to solve behavior problems in American schools. As parents you have power. You do not have to Òfollow ordersÓ and give your children harmful substances. The results can be deadly.

This week a twenty-year-old female told me that her psychologist-lawyer parents put her on antidepressants for six years when she was a child. She reported that this Òdrugged state numbed me so much that I did not feel anything.Ó Even now, many years later, she still felt Òdead.Ó She reported that Òtaking those antidepressants for all those years changed me forever.Ó Perhaps they did. Hopefully that damage can be undone.

The bottom line is that drugs are dangerous whether they are legal or illegal. Drugs that attempt to alter our emotions do not help any of us achieve our human potential. In fact they make it that much harder to be healthy and happy. There is no drug that has ever been proven to remove the cause of depression. So, no matter how long a person is on a drug, when they get off, the cause of the depression is still there, waiting to be ÒRecognized. Ò

If you or your children are on drugs, do not judge yourself for using them. Instead get proper medical help in how to reduce the chemicals in the body in the least harmful fashion. Also get support from others who have successfully gotten off the drug. There is a large online community with support and helpful information.

You can get to the source of what is causing the depressed energy in the first place. DonÕt just talk about it. Look up and around you at healthy ways to solve problems. There are body practitioners and holistic professionals who can help you get to the root of your problem. Depression is not mysterious; it is an energy problem.

It is no surprise that the one reliable finding is that physical activity improves depression. Anything that gets us up and moving is beneficial. This means that any and all body and energy approaches can help us reduce our dense, heavy energy. The concern is to find a practitioner or professional that does not just ÒtreatÓ us but also teaches us how to keep our own energy moving.

The best way to reduce depression is to increase your sexual energy directly. Sex is the Dynamite that is needed to blast the boulder out of the way. You do not need a partner to be sexual. Neither do you need to be an adult. When Freud observed that children were sexual, he was not saying that they had intercourse. What he was noticing was that they were alive, vibrant and full of themselves. Regular readers of my ÒSex & LoveÓ Column know that Mechanic Sex; my term, is unhealthy and passŽÕ. Healthy sex is a whole body sensation that has absolutely nothing to do with intercourse. Read past columns at www.newvisionsmagazine.com. For more information about the energy dynamics of depression go to www.drjeanette.com

There are abundant reports that show that those of us who enjoy sexual activities are healthier, stronger and happier. We even look younger! Sex is a sacred gift that children, women and men need to enjoy and use to reach the Divine Energy of the Universe. The more we love our bodies and our sexuality the more we can access our fire. Our fire will automatically burn off that heavy, dense energy. Without a doubt, if your sexuality is aflame, you cannot be depressed!

Doris Jeanette, licensed psychologist, originator of a new model for human change, teaches us how to use our emotional and spiritual strengths. Instead of giving Òa treatment,Ó she increases our awareness of energy dynamics. She has presented and published her innovative work internationally. A Natural Process for Opening the Heart, three audiocassette tapes, highly recommended by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, MD, comfort and intimately guide us toward emotional health and vitality. Free Teleseminars and free newsletter at www.drjeanette.com. Call 215-732-6197