Erotic Living(TM) Column

Doris Jeanette, Psy.D

Published in Spiritually & Sexuality, Editor Ani Colt, winter issue, 2002

Suddenly at the age of 4 or 5, I became aware of myself. I was tingling all over, from head to toe. Waves upon waves of intensely pleasurable feelings pulsated throughout by whole body as I lay on the smooth, wood floor underneath the bed, in my rural home in North Carolina. I, as a consciousness being, was coming into manifestation. And this identify was composed of pure, delicious sensations. Vibrations quivered through my whole being in rhythmic waves of ecstasy. "Exploding" with the universe is the best way I can describe it. No one else was involved. Naturally, I seek ways to return again and again to this orgasmic rhapsody of my cells.

This is what gives me the proper credentials to write this column, not the fact that I am a licensed psychologist and have been a trained sex therapist since 1976. We all deserve to have peak experiences and passion in our daily life. And we deserve to feel safe with this intense and incredible energy. The intention of this column is to enhance the quality of the world's experience of sex and love. Let us know what specific areas or questions we can explore here in these pages that would be desirable, to you, the reader.

We continue to use the word sex, although that is not exactly the correct word. Sex began with the plant kingdom a long time ago. This total body orgasm I experienced at 4 has nothing to do with pollination or procreation. It has to do with be-ing divinely alive. It has to do with the future, the future direction that our species is taking. It is our body's untapped potential that we are exploring and setting free. It is a whole new way of living that we are promoting here in Erotic living.(TM) It is so much more than sex and it is so much more than physical orgasms.

The Source of Sex feeds our life force. It is the source of our health and happiness. If our sexuality is sluggish, we are sluggish. If our sexuality is vital, we have enthusiasm, charm and charisma. One of the most passionate people I know, is a nun. She has never had intercourse with another, but her sexual energy feeds her consciousness. She produces the most exquisite sensual sculptures made out of wood. We can feel her sexy soul in the form.

Notice that this is not the same substance as "The Image" we have been conditioned to believe is "sexy," the stuff that sells cars and fills up our movie screen. "Mechanical Sex," occurs when we push a few buttons, do some heavy breathing, throw in a few kisses and have an orgasm. Not very exciting. Mechanical Sex does not add to our happiness or health quota. In fact, it can actually harm us. When we explode with others, we literally take on all of the other person's energy--yee gads! So we could be increasing our heaviness or worsening our energy leakage.

Jack Schwartz taught me the mechanics of physical energy. It is generated in our gonads and then travels to the second chakra where it is stored in our belly. The second chakra is like the furnace in our house, a reservoir of energy, ready when we need it. This is the source that quickly gives a Mother the strength she needs to lift up a car to pull her son out from under the wheel. This fire in our belly is what we need in order to feed excitement to every cell.

Therefore, the amount of stored energy we have in our belly determines how much force we have behind all our endeavors. With this creative energy we can do anything we want-- heal, build, write or make money. We can even use it to "make love" with someone when we feel like it. In addition, this second chakra connects us to others. It allows us to touch and be touched with comfort.

Having sex does not mean this area is open. If we do not trust ourselves to be physically close with others or if we have trouble letting go of control, this area is probably stagnant. The result is varying degrees of helplessness, depression and alienation.

So our sexual energy needs to be flowing freely through our whole body. Without it, we are dull, weak and sick. Let us begin to honor our body and wear it well. We are the ones leading the masses toward Erotic Living(TM) We are the ones opening up to the child like wonder of-- pure, delicious sensations that reverberate though every cell.

Doris Jeanette is a licensed psychologist, sex & love coach and author of Opening the Heart, three self help tapes that teach you how to achieve Erotic Living (TM). She has taught and published her groundbreaking work internationally. Contact her at drjeanette@drjeanette.com or Call 215-732-6197.

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